RULER for Families

RULER is a social emotional learning (SEL) approach that is based on building community understanding around emotional intelligence and using four simple tools for helping teachers, staff, students, and families learn and practice SEL skills. The approach was developed by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, which is directed by Dr. Marc Brackett.

RULER is an acronym for the 5 key skills of emotional intelligence:

  • Recognizing emotions in ourselves and others
  • Understanding the causes and consequences of emotions
  • Labeling emotions accurately
  • Expressing emotions in accordance with cultural norms and social context
  • Regulating emotions effectively

Maureen MacLeod, the Academy Support and Wellness (S+Well) Department Chair, and Molly Takagi, the K-8 Social Emotional and Ethical Learning (SEEL) Coordinator have been working together this school year to introduce our K-12 faculty to the RULER approach.

Due to the pandemic and the shift to distance learning for the remainder of the 2019-2020 school year and the summer, they have created a 4-part series on using the RULER tools and approach to support social-emotional learning at home.


Part 1: Emotions Matter: How are you feeling?

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Part 2: Your Family’s Charter: How do we want to feel at home?

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Part 3: Mood Meter: Identifying Our Emotions

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Part 4: Regulating Our Emotions During a Time of Crisis

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