RULER for Families
RULER is a social emotional learning (SEL) approach that is based on building community understanding around emotional intelligence and using four simple tools for helping teachers, staff, students, and families learn and practice SEL skills. The approach was developed by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, which is directed by Dr. Marc Brackett.
RULER is an acronym for the 5 key skills of emotional intelligence:
- Recognizing emotions in ourselves and others
- Understanding the causes and consequences of emotions
- Labeling emotions accurately
- Expressing emotions in accordance with cultural norms and social context
- Regulating emotions effectively
Maureen MacLeod, the Academy Support and Wellness (S+Well) Department Chair, and Molly Takagi, the K-8 Social Emotional and Ethical Learning (SEEL) Coordinator have been working together this school year to introduce our K-12 faculty to the RULER approach.
Due to the pandemic and the shift to distance learning for the remainder of the 2019-2020 school year and the summer, they have created a 4-part series on using the RULER tools and approach to support social-emotional learning at home.
Part 1: Emotions Matter: How are you feeling?
Part 1 Additional Resources:
- If you have 5 minutes, Read Dr. Marc Brackett's blog post: There's No Such Thing as a Bad Emotion
- If you have 10 minutes, check out this related article: “I Wanted to Know How to Help My Teen Through This Tough Quarantine So I asked Her”
- If you have 30 minutes - Watch this webinar: Managing Anxiety Around COVID-19
- If you have 60 minutes: Watch the Punahou November 2019 PFA Monthly Gathering Featuring the RULER approach
Part 2: Your Family’s Charter: How do we want to feel at home?
Part 2 Additional Resources:
- If you have 5 minutes, check out this handout: How to Create a Family Charter
- If you have 15 minutes: Dr. Marc Brackett describes the process in his blog post: Emotions at Home: How Do We Want to Feel? (includes step-by-step guide to creating a family Charter)
- If you have 30 minutes, watch this webinar from the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence: How We Want to Feel at Home: Creating a Family Charter
Part 3: Mood Meter: Identifying Our Emotions
Part 3 Additional Resources:
- If you have 5 minutes, try this: Guided Mood meter reflection video
- If you have 10 minutes, read Dr. Marc Brackett’s blog: The Colors of Our Emotions
- If you have 40 minutes, watch this webinar: Check-in! Using the Mood Meter at Home
- Helpful handouts and printables:
Part 4: Regulating Our Emotions During a Time of Crisis
Part 4 Additional Resources:
- If you have 5 minutes, read Dr. Marc Brackett’s blog - What Do We Do with All These Feelings?
- If you have 10 minutes, read this article: How to Regulate Your Stir-Crazy Emotions
- If you have 30 - 60 min: check out one of these webinars:
- Evidence-Based Strategies for Self- Regulation - Dr. Marc Brackett
- Helping Children Manage Emotions During Uncertain Times - Dr. Marc Brackett
- How to be your best self during a crisis - TEDTalk with Susan David:
- Interested in trying out more mindfulness practices? Check out these resources: